Have you ever wondered about changing people, say their behaviourial patterns? If you have, how do you feel about that each time you try to? It could be so exhausting and draining right?
So these thoughts came to mind this morning on my way to the office as I was thinking through the many different ways individual behave. Many times in life, we tend to and or usually feel the urge to change people, we mostly have high expectations of how these people should act and or behave neglecting the fact that we as individuals were all raised differently in different homes, by different parents and in different environment. One thing came to mind which was; “people change at their own will, pace and time, and this occur without any form of pressure.”
Change is more of something internal, a deliberate and intentional act after much critical self examination which birth self discipline and more efforts from within to enforce genuine desire to change which spring forth from within them.
Some of the things life has taught me is to embrace and love people for who they are at the moment. But then, this doesn’t mean we should stay in situations that are not favourable, situations which causes any form of disrespect, threatens our self esteem and peace.
Kindly exit yourself from people’s life if they are not willing to take responsibility for their actions, but rather have chosen to stay the same with their irresponsible behaviour. And this apply to whatever kind of relationship we have with people.
Do not be so desperate to change people that you end up not living and enjoying their company in the moment. Let’s learn to focus less on people’s flaws and weaknesses as it will only end up rubbing us of the fun, peace and happiness that relationship holds.
Truth is, when we keep focusing on what will go wrong, then most definitely, everything will begin to go wrong. Be positive instead, live and let others live pending on when they are moved to take it upon themselves to change themselves. This doesn’t mean we should be totally blind to their shortcomings, there should be time to always correct them in love when they are doing some things wrongly. Also, love and be patient with people through their change process.
Do not make life difficult and or complicated for yourself and others. Live, breathe and savour every moment with these persons. Life is simple.
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