Movie Director: Emmanuel Mang Eme
Cast: Wole Ojo, Ruth Kadiri, Peggy Ovire, Ifeanyi Kalu and Uche Joan
Will Marry Marry Me? is a Nigerian movie. So this guy named Efe in the movie, married his wife, and travelled afterwards for a business trip just five weeks into the marriage when he travelled, his wife cheated on him with another man in their matrimonial bed. The fateful day the woman was on their matrimonial bed with another man, her husband walked in and he caught them. I guess she didn’t know he would be back so soon or he just wanted to surprise her or something. Instead of interrupting what seemed to be pleasurable at that moment, he walked away. His wife in the other hand, didn’t know her husband caught them. But after that incident, something changed in their marriage. Her husband lost interest totally in her. He didn’t talk to her about it, he didn’t ask her to leave the house, but then, she couldn’t even have him anymore as she was deprived of sex and affection.
Her husband became very depressed, consumed alcohol and went out sleeping with prostitutes. In the process, he met a lady who was totally different from other ladies he’s met and slept with after the period his trust was betrayed by his wife, since he now gets sex outside the home and not from his wife anymore. This lady in question caught his attention, she actually got involved in the act of sleeping with the married guy because she had some challenges and her mom was ill. Her best friend actually lured her into the act.
Before they both started dating, Efe told her what transpired, how his wife cheated and all. He got serious, took good care of her and her needs, her mom became well again because he took it upon himself to see her well. Efe bought this girlfriend if his a car. But then, the lady in question wanted to know where the relationship was headed. Like he can’t be showering her with all the love, attention and gifts and wouldn’t tell her what he wants out of their relationship you know! She asked several times to know where the relationship was leaded, but he didn’t say. From my observation, she really did cared for him, reason she kept asking to know her stand. But this guy kept telling her to give him more time… How long time really?
Oh well, this was the lesson learnt: A good woman who has good intentions for her man would definitely ask the man she’s been dating what plans he has for her. You can’t expect a woman to be quiet when she doesn’t know what’s on your mind and or her stand with you. She wants to know so she doesn’t give someone else who might be serious the chance, she wants to know, so she doesn’t leave unawares and leave you broken just because you weren’t serious about making your intentions known. It’s not about spoiling her with gifts and the like, I believe men always know what they want, and so, if your relationship with a woman is futuristic, then make it known without hesitation.
If the guy in the movie had told her, “okay babe, I want to marry you, but give me more time to sought things out or I’m waiting for my wife to leave, so we can finally settle in together.” That would have been a different ball game. And hey! I’m not in support of men cheating, neither am I in support of ladies going after sugar daddies. This guy caught his wife cheating, what should he have done? Call her, sit her down and tell her what you saw, then if you can’t continue with the marriage and want divorce, you make it known to her straight up and not punish her. I know she was totally wrong, but instead of punishing her, just tell her and free her to go so you also can have peace of mind and be happy. But no, he chose to keep her in his house without a word from him, sleeping around because he was truly broken. But that would never solve the problem on ground you know.
That good woman who was asking what plans he had for her wasn’t getting any younger, her mom wanted her to get married. Efe had a friend and partner who was like a brother to him, and this friend of his met Efe with this good lady once and he just gave a formal intro, without telling his friend he was dating her. Friend went behind, started dating the good lady and got serious and proposed to her. She wouldn’t have said no, because he was single, and wanted something serious and made it known to her.
What am I trying to say? When you love and adore somebody or something, make it known. Show how you do not want to lose that beautiful somebody or thing. Don’t keep them in the dark, leaving them guessing. Speak up, make them know your plans. It isn’t like you’re trying to sweet talk her into staying with you, but being honest about how much she means to you and how you want to grow old with her. Now, after you had given a woman that kind of assurance and she still goes all out with someone else, then it simply means she doesn’t and never really valued you and the relationship and was never yours to start with. In that case, you don’t need to chase her. Yes, you’ll get hurt and you’ll be broken. Pick yourself up, be proud of yourself for opening up and making intentions known. You gave your all and that alone was enough and worth it. One day, love with find its way to you and stay for better.
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